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Inequality of Desire

Written By: Jenn - Feb• 20•11

What do you do when your desire for something does not match your spouse’s (or significant other’s)? Does it mean that you’re not the perfect match you thought you were in the beginning? I’m beginning to wonder.

The big question is “What do you do when you really, really want it, he couldn’t care less and rejects the idea completely, and having it by yourself just feels pointless”?

For me, morning, noon and night sounds about right. I really, really like it. When I’m not having it, I think about it. When I’m having it, I’m thinking about how great it is, but also wondering when I’ll have it again. I love how it feels, and how sated I feel afterward. It’s entirely consuming.

But really, it doesn’t have to last forever – a bit here and there is every bit as satisfying as having it when planned for, don’t you think? Sometimes even more so, especially when it’s spontaneous.

I have to admit that I’ve had it with other people, and… it was really good. Sometimes ShaMoo and J-B and I have it together! Hubby doesn’t need to know about it, right?

Folks… life is short. Eat the sushi.


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  1. Broot says:

    Yeah I would think you have to find a way to have it and enjoy it. But also, that hubby would have to support your need for it. After all, you support him, right? LOL this all sounds so sexual. ha.

    • Jenn says:

      Sushi can definitely feel like a sexual experience! ;) I don’t actually think about it as much as that, but it was fun to write… heehee

      • Broot says:

        mmmm sushi. I love it too. I think it’s a good thing you have friends who do like sushi. Have you tried making your own?

  2. Betty says:

    LOL! You got me there for a minute. I guess it shows what a dirty mind we (I!!) have.
    But sushi? I´m with your husband here. Don´t need it and don´t want to try. :)

    • Jenn says:

      Oh Betty! Don’t knock it ’til you try it! It’s fantastic :)

    • Broot says:

      Yeah, Betty, it doesn’t have to be fish, ya know. There’s beef teriyaki sushi, and pickled plum sushi, and chicken teriyaki sushi, and prawn sushi, and cucumber sushi, and egg sushi… yum yum yum.

  3. One of these days I’m going to have to try it, I realise. I know that everyone is having it, and sometimes whole groups of people will get together to have it, but even after 24 years my wife and I just haven’t had it yet.

    I think you should a) tell your hubby how much it means to you, then b) tell your hubby that he doesn’t have to have it, then c) add quietly, if he’s not up to it, that is! ;P

  4. Hubby does read your blog, doesn’t he? :-)

  5. trisha says:

    food habit differences can be really disappointing in marriage but it can be adjusted :)

    you can always have your fill when you are out with friends.

  6. carma says:

    HA HA – love it!!! Not sushi – but this post :-)